How To Feel Loved

How To Feel Loved by Sonja Lyubomirsky and Harry Reis is an evidence-based self-help book that brings happiness science and relationship research together in a refreshingly practical way. It starts from a quietly confronting truth: you can be loved, yet still not feel loved—and the gap can fuel loneliness, anxiety, and self-doubt.

Drawing on decades of research into human connection, the authors unpack why “being more lovable” isn’t the answer. Instead, they offer five learnable mindsets—sharing, listening-to-learn, radical curiosity, open-heartedness, and multiplicity—paired with a simple “Relationship See-Saw” framework to reshape everyday conversations without turning them into therapy sessions.

Perfect for readers interested in psychology, emotional wellbeing, communication skills, and healthier romantic relationships, friendships, and family dynamics.

Add it to your shelf if you want a thoughtful, science-backed guide to feeling more securely known and cared for.